Self-doubt can significantly impact your self-regard, despite any external success you may have achieved
Some difficulties I encounter in my daily work with individuals
Perfectionism
Striving for perfection can keep you stuck in one place. Perfectionism is often linked with procrastination, high levels of anxiety, and can be detrimental to self-esteem. Perfectionism can also cause tension in relationships. The goal is not to lower your standards, wish for less, or do the opposite. Having high standards for yourself can be valuable. You and I will aim to discover the distinct significance perfectionism has for you as well as the effect it has on your relationships, your self, your work and play. I will help you use your high standards effectively, without being hindered by impossible ideals and self-criticisms, so you can grow and change.
Fear of failure
Even when you are performing well, you may worry about potential mistakes. This can be painful and inhibiting. I help you cope with the anxieties that come with risk, and the inevitability of unknowns, by helping you to realize what is behind your fear of failure. Perhaps most importantly, the new relationship you and I embark on will help you to tolerate the difficult emotional states that come up around the fear of failure.
Overachievement and overwork
I have encountered many adults in my practice who tend to overwork as a way to sustain a sense of self-worth. It is undeniable that work is an important source of self-esteem. Overwork, on the other hand, may be a way of avoiding something else, such as anxiety, low self-esteem or guilt, in relation to other areas in your life. You and I will work to understand what is underneath your intense focus on one aspect of your life. You may become more curious about yourself and what you may be avoiding. Feeling accepted in the therapy room may transfer to a greater acceptance of yourself. This will go a long way in opening you up to areas in your life that have been left out.
Imposter Syndrome
You may sometimes perceive yourself as a fraud. You may identify your success as luck, or as coming from anywhere other than yourself—certainly not your ability or hard work.
How is it that you don’t see your efforts and your strengths? How is it that you don’t see the value you contribute to your own life?
With time, I will help you to understand what brought you to externalize your achievements so that you can build a true sense of self-worth.